I’m not sure how this will be received but I’m spilling it anyway.
My husband and I have just decided to skip a romantic vacation alone.
Why? Not because we don’t love each other. Not because we don’t need time away from it all to reconnect. And Not because we don’t have childcare available to us.
We are happily celebrating our 20th wedding anniversary in April and had glorious plans to take an extended vacation to some place amazing. The last few
weeks months I’ve been researching and harassing basically everyone on the street just to find the most romantic — non touristy — vacation destination. So far I’d narrowed it down to Bora Bora or Hawaii. Both lovely. Bora Bora/Tahiti being the most inviting. Because, come on, bungalow over the water?! Heaven.
Why haven’t I booked it yet? The amount of time it takes to get there? Yes kinda.
The amount of money to travel there? Aaaa yep.
But mostly we were stopped in our vacation-booking-tracks when a tragedy bulldozed our friends last weekend. A tragedy that makes you think about every moment of every day. A tragedy that made us realize we would rather vacation as a family and carve out private mommy/daddy time within that same get-away. Sharing both cuddles with our littles and cuddles with each other is what appealed to us the most.
Jason and I were shocked and relieved we shared the exact same thought. Neither had hurt feelings in this decision! Sweet. I love when we are all on the same page and the world is as it should be. Whew!
My immediate next thought was, “Will I be ridiculed?” Will my friends and family not understand our feelings of wanting to be with the girls on what was to be our “romantic rendezvous”?
Now don’t misunderstand me, I’m all about alone time and date night with my man. I cherish the moments and believe it’s completely necessary to stay connected as a team. I still completely love and adore this guy I do life with! So, is it wrong that I want to spend my 20th Anniversary with my husband and the three girls we pour our hearts and souls into? I don’t know and I guess I don’t really care. Because, we’re doing it. I’m laying it out there… we are taking an anniversary trip with our family. Humm, it still sounds strange and a little sad… but I’m excited to relax in the sun with ALL of my hunnies that the last 20 years of marriage has brought me!
Now back to square one of trip planning! Grr. While I am annoyed at the wasted hours spent on scheduling Bora Bora plane connections, I am bursting with excitement to surprise the girls with the news of our family trip!
Where should we go?
What’s your favorite family vacation? (think beach… and outside of the US please)
It’s gotta be both kid friendly yet romantic.
Thoughts or ideas?
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